Understand one thing

God never said that women ought to be obedient to men.

He said that wives need to be obedient to their husbands.

One is not obedient to their husband because he is a man.

But because he is their husband.

It is a division of labor that is necessary for the accomplishment of a difficult and vital task.

It is as if you decide to take a long journey together, and to help one another cross a vast dessert.

Will you do your part? Yes.

Will you do your part? Yes.

Agreed.

Then let us embark.

There is a mutual dependence, and respect.

It is not that man is placed on the whole above woman.

It is rather than man is made as only a part,

of a whole

a whole that includes the wife.

They are not an andras and a gyneka –

But both together and inseparably are the androgyno.

How can you Man be better, or more important, or more valuable than your wife in the marriage,

when in a marriage you do not exist apart from her?

So when you look at a woman – every woman – know:

That you are looking at a person, like any person, and give her the due respect.

And when you look at your wife know:

That she – another person – and you, have agreed to work together

and have agreed to take on this task;

that each will do their part;

and that only with all the parts do you have a whole.

Without her you are not a boat – you are just some logs.

And give her the respect that is due.

But again, let me say it once more:

-       not every woman owes you obedience

-       and your wife is fulfilling a function and serving a role. Not for you ‘because you are king’. But for you and the entire family, and for God. Because you have a long way to go; because this is significant; because you are in the middle of a dessert, and however you do this, you need it to work.

She is carrying the same burden – sharing it with you. So work together as one, 
and show her the love that is due.

You are working together

You are in the army of God, on a mission together.

Co-operate, and be one another’s joy.

Rely on each other,

Trust one another,

And be one another’s shelter.

You are on enemy land;

You have one Commander;

You share a mission;

Co-operate

You have one another.